18 Replies to “Yearning for Rules”

  1. May More

    I did think of the irony – u actually got out and met others and then now you have to stay in. Life throws some curve balls at times and maybe it is only in time you will see if this one helped you in any way.
    I have never heard of the white eagle – sounds a bit cultist TBH.
    I do the tarot – I like Jesus – I write a lot about him – find hm sexy – not sure why –
    Great post ML
    May x

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    • MLSlavePuppet Post author

      Haha I actually find some solace in that you thought it was ironic too. Also yeaaaah sounds cultist to me too. That’s kinda why my dad divorced my mum!

      Hey, nothing wrong with that 🙂

      Thank you! x

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  2. ams

    So many powerful words here. The last part about patience…you are not alone. I finally wanted to go to some poly and kink meetups and a my support group l…all cancelled of course. It’s frustrating all right..

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  3. askmefast

    I would agree that there are parallels between your lifestyle as a slave needing, rules , structure and purpose and religion. Meeting up with others to commune in the lifestyle you choose is your church.

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  4. PurpleSole

    Not being able to go out right now at least doesn’t make me feel bad for not going when we probably could before. Its daunting and I think you do a lot to show identity on here, it’s open and honest, but I get the need to see the real people too.

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    • MLSlavePuppet Post author

      I get that! I often have that with parties and such. Thank you, I do feel like I can be openly me here and like I’m a part of this community, which would be similar to if I started making friends in the local community right now, except here you really know me and engage and I really get to know all of you too and this would take longer in real life I think.

      I always had my best friends online, which didn’t have much to do with them being online, and more with the fact we just didn’t happen to live in the same place. The sex blog community feels the same, which is where eroticon normally helps cross bridges I guess!

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  5. Never Waste a Dirty Mind

    Dear Marie Louise,

    I am as much of an atheist as they come, but I have come to a different conclusion than you have. I think the structure and comfort a submissive or a slave finds with D/s rules and rituals are exactly the same as the structure and comfort people find in the rules and rituals of spirituality and religion. And I think that is OK. I don’t see a problem disentangling the beliefs from from the structure. I think those are two separate things. It doesn’t take belief in the supernatural to take comfort in the structure of a D/s relationship.

    I was surprised at how much comfort I brought a sub by giving her rituals and mantras and rules. To me, they really just started out as things for her to do to remind her that she was submissive and owned. Of course, I found it hot to have her do these things for me, but over time I found that for her they took on a much more profound meaning, much like you describe what you did for Miss Lois. I found it almost scary how powerful it was to her.

    I think it goes to show that for a lot of people these mechanisms are deeply embedded. It seems to be something essential about being human. Otherwise, organized religion would not have survived for millennia and they wouldn’t all have similar structures.

    It has humbled me as a dominant to realize how powerful this stuff is. I have realized that you really have to think about what you are doing, when you build a structure of rules and rituals for a submissive or a slave. You can very profoundly mess with someone’s mind, if you are not careful.

    Of course, you also made me smile in this very serious post. It is so you that you couldn’t just leave it, isn’t it? You had to reclaim all these acts and rituals and good for you! You are nothing if not consistent.

    All the best,
    Henrik

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    • MLSlavePuppet Post author

      Hi Henrik,

      Apologies for my slow reply. You might be right. Perhaps it is indeed exactly the same. I think my conclusions are more the type of conclusions for a specific post or a specific moment in time. As time passes, things can change as we’re constantly evolving and learning new things.

      Haha, of course I have to reclaim them! It’s all about finding a way to make it work and be okay and come out stronger.

      x

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