Sensual Bondage Experience

A few weeks ago, my friend (I’ll call him J) who I had first met at a kink event came over. Contact had watered a bit during lockdown but apart from my surprise at his height, it felt like we might have just seen each other two weeks ago. He had brought candles, rope and stuff for electro play as I couldn’t decide what I’d like to do when we discussed it over WhatsApp prior. On the day we settled for rope play.

How we met

J and I met when I first went to Sugar Kane and attended the pre-munch that took place in a pub. He arrived after I’d been welcomed and had already talked to the others for well over an hour and by this point, I’d ended up in a corner and had gone rather quiet. The first things I noticed were his motor helmet and his bandana, which I soon learned is kind of his trademark. Unlike the other people who had arrived later he appeared to be specifically aware that I was new and quiet. I felt like he kept looking at me in an attempt to help me engage but really I was quite happy where I was. In hindsight, apparently he felt like I kept on looking at him and that he, therefore, wanted to try and include me. However, we were at opposite ends of the table and the table was too long for us to talk.

The pre-munch ended and we moved over to the actual venue where I ended up in another corner and J came over to chat. We talked about different kinks and experience levels and I mentioned I’d always wanted to try electro play after which he asked if I wanted to play. We ended up doing so, about which I wrote more in this post about that Fetish Night. That evening, I believe I told him I’m not much of a hugging person but during lockdown, I mentioned to him that hugging people was something I missed.

So after my initial shock at his height (really it just reminds me of how tiny I am), we hugged when he arrived. I assume I asked him if there was anything he wanted to eat or drink but then I kind of didn’t know where to go. The host tends to decide where you’re doing to sit and socialise but I have no such decision-making ability when other people are involved lol. We ended up in the living room where I rarely ever spend my time. Conversation felt natural and easy; as I said, it didn’t feel like there’d been a long period of absence. It feels like we’re both a little strange in our own ways. Like we have a certain awkwardness about us but have also found confidence in our uniqueness. Though perhaps he sees that very differently!

Rope Play

Before coming over he’d asked me if I wanted to play and I was definitely in favour. Like with deciding which room to go to, I didn’t know what kind of play I wanted to do. In reality, I could have just as happily done wax as electro and rope play. Rope felt safest to me, somehow so we decided on rope play, which he remarked he’d grown a bit rusty in, while I felt like it’d been a while since I’d been properly tied.

We went over some basic limits, I undressed and he chose to use his yellow rope, which might have been because I mentioned I like yellow a lot. I can’t quite remember what part we started with but I was looking out onto the street, just a little wary of the possibility of approaching cars, neighbours and a postman, while he was tying my arms behind my back. He ties very differently from me. As you can tell from my TmuT posts, I follow tutorials by the letter and focus on the aesthetics. J, on the other hand, ties based on what he feels like without following any instructions; he has learned the basic principles and takes it from there. Personally I admire that as I struggle to follow a similar approach because it’d mean I’d have to make decisions!

When a car did approach, I turned around and hid behind him; we then shut the blinds. Having my arms tied behind my back reminded me of the Rope 101 workshop I attended near the end of 2019. A girl tied me then and the experience had very much made me feel alive, similar to today. There is something about being restricted. I think we’re so used to using our arms and hands that it almost feels a little surreal when you suddenly can’t; at least that’s what it feels like to me. It makes me happy; it reminds me of all my submissive desires.

Sensual Bondage

J mentioned and apologised a few times for how he was really out of practice. Honestly, it didn’t matter to me, nor seemed to be true in a significant way; I was simply enjoying the feeling of rope against my skin and the way it tightened as more elements were added to the tie. Just four days prior, Roxy had been over and on the evening before J visited, when I took a shower, I realised how sore my nipples were. I mentioned this when he started tying my boobs and he wryly said that I should have mentioned that earlier before pulling the rope in that area extra tight.

We went from standing to sitting as my legs were incorporated into the tie until there wasn’t much left of me to bind. Okay, time to untie. My usual experience with getting out of rope is frustrating as I don’t have the patience to trace my way back and untangle the rope. This time, however, the experience was surprisingly pleasant and sensual. This is what J meant when he said he’d been out of practice, as apparently, there’s a way to make the bondage experience specifically sensual. J slowly pulled at the rope so it would slide over my back and shoulder before being fully removed. It heightens the sense of touch, especially if he suddenly pulled the rope more strongly, like when it was sliding over my nipple. I think I’d compare the sensual feeling of rope to someone gently playing with your hair; it’s very pleasant.

Once untied we moved back to the sofa and hugged for an extended time. It gave me a sense of security and safety–a moment to let go and relax, rather than keeping up my usual defences I use in life, which was really nice. I like how we’re able to play and meet again and having the new sensual experience was a nice surprise.

Xx Mila

I’ve linked this to this week’s Tie me up Tuesday prompt “Arm Restriction,” as I’m a little busy packing for my move next week in case I won’t have time to try the Arm Binding Self-Tie, which The Sassy Sub has already attempted here.