This post was written and sponsored by sex diaries project. As you have noticed, I haven’t written much in the last month. This is due to my submission of my thesis, which will be completed after the 24th of June and I’ll come back with loads of kinky posts after this date 😉 

Now, on to the main post: 

5 Basic Safety Rules Of BDSM Sex

When it comes to the world of sex, there are endless possibilities for exploration. It is a great way to discover what you like and open up new realms of pleasure for you and your partner. BDSM is one such approach, but it is not for everyone.

You have to experience it to understand if you like it or not. However, it is essential to practice safety rules during BDSM so both people can have an enjoyable experience. Here is everything you need to know about BDSM sex and the top five safety rules you need to follow.

The 3 Elements Of BDSM

Before you understand the five basic safety rules, you need to understand what BDSM entails. Here are the top three elements of BDSM that make this experience what it is:

1. Bondage

The B in BDSM stands for bondage. In simple terms, this means to tie up your partner’s limbs together using a restraint. For example, you can use multiple types of restraints that can include chains, handcuffs, ropes, and much more.

Many people confuse bondage with using physical punishment such as whipping. However, that comes under the category of discipline and not bondage. Any psychological or physical punishment is not a part of bondage.

2. Dominance And Submission

The second element of BDSM is dominance and submission. It is the mental aspect of the experience, and it involves receiving or giving control to one partner over the other. You can also use contracts to lay out the rules of dominance and submission in your BDSM experience.

Of course, these contracts are not legally binding. However, they outline that both of you have formally consented to the experience and are okay with one person having power over the other in such a partnership.

3. Sadism And Masochism

The third element of BDSM is sadism and masochism. In this element, there is an exchange of emotional or physical pain. Masochism is when the partner receives pleasure from being hurt.

On the other hand, sadism is when an individual derives pleasure from hurting another person. Keep in mind that many people think BDSM is all about the exchange of pain, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. BDSM sex is all about the exchange of pleasure and power between two individuals that have consented to it.

The 5 Basic Safety Rules

It is not difficult to get carried away in this exchange of pleasure and power. That is why it is critical to establish some ground rules before you start engaging in such a sexual experience. Here are the five basic safety rules you need to follow when starting BDSM sex with your partner:

1. Consent

Consent is one of the most important things to practice safety during BDSM sex. You need to tell your partner what you want to explore in this experience and vice versa. If they don’t consent to something or you don’t, then that should not be a part of your BDSM experience.

An excellent way to ensure consent is to create a contract. List down all the things you want to explore, and your partner should do the same. Share your lists, and then each of you should check everything you are okay with.

The unchecked boxes are the non-consensual territory in which you should not dwell. Such contracts will clarify what both of you want out of this and what your boundaries are. Once you have the basic issue of consent sorted, you can move on to other things.

2. Safety Words Or Signals

Sometimes your partner might not be okay with your pace, and they might want you to slow down or stop immediately. BDSM experiences can become intense in terms of pleasure and pain, so establishing safety words is critical.

Some people use normal words such as stop, no, etc. However, many people use colors to indicate what to do. For example, red means stop immediately, yellow means slow down, and green means keep going. Choose the words and signals that seem the most simple to you, so both of you know what to do.

3. Establish Roles

In the BDSM experience, one person has a dominant role, and the other one is submissive. That is because such an experience is all about the exchange of power. So, you need to establish roles before you delve into this experience.

Establishing this will help give you a better sense of what each of you needs to do, especially if you are a beginner. Once you get the hang of it, you can add more things to your role to make it enjoyable and sexy.

4. Don’t Fall Into The Rabbit Hole

Anything new is always exciting, and we want to keep trying more of it. BDSM has endless activities such as bondage, spanking, and much more. Many people get attracted by this and start exploring everything at once.

However, you should ease into this experience. Try a few things first and see if you and your partner are enjoying it. After that, you can start introducing new things one by one to make your experience enjoyable and fun.

5. Have Fun

Finally, you should have fun and enjoy this new experience. Keep in mind that you will make some mistakes as a beginner, but that is part of the process. Once you have gotten through that phase, you will love the experience.

It is critical to keep the spirit alive so you and your partner can open new realms of pleasure and make the most out of this experience. So, once you get past the beginning, let loose and have fun.

That was your complete guide to the five safety rules of BDSM that you need to follow. All new experiences should have ground rules, so the experience is positive for both the parties involved. Once you have set these rules, it is time to let go and enjoy.

This post was written and sponsored by sex diaries project.